Making love, doing the nasty, hanky-panky, screwing around, and more. There are so many ways to speak of our sexuality that is perhaps the genesis for euphemisms. We all experience it and we all express it, so then why is it hard for us to talk about? As a species, we have hidden away from our sexuality, despite it being precisely how we all came to be here. This repression of our true nature has caused much of the sexual violence and misuse of pornography within our society. When acknowledged and expressed freely and with direction, our sensual selves guide us into our truer joys. Our breath combined with the natural sensations of physical expression open us into pathways of pure creation, energy, and growth.
Sexuality is something we all possess and all desire to work with. By hiding from it and repressing it, we have made the desire to “achieve climax” highly desirable. In this, men and women drain themselves of their vital life force for moments of erotic stimulation and climax, only to feel less whole than before. As the process continues there is less and less there to drain as the vitality has not been replenished. Then they need to seek newer and more stimulating material to excite the sexual senses. Each time this occurs, one moves further from their internal world and loses a part of themselves.
The term “sacred” is used not because sexuality should be hidden, but that it should be treated with respect. When we approach our sexuality, a gift from the creator, with the awe and reverence that it deserves, we augment our life flow, and increase our abundance. It does not require a partner or “hands on stimulation.” Through the power of our mind and any senses or images we hold, we can excite ourselves to a point of near- climax and sustain it. Then we can direct the flow of energy to parts of our psyche and body that need greater healing and growth. The goal is not for the sensation to end, or to orgasm, but to maintain a state of sexual bliss, while feeling our own fullness.
As a practice this looks like taking time to lay down comfortably and to feel into your fun parts.
First we relax, and feel into these organs. We acknowledge them and sense the simple pleasure of being and having parts that are entirely designed for joy, intimacy, and creation. Call upon a Goddess of your choice, be that Mary Magdalene, Shakti, Isis, etc. They are the facilitators of Tantric energy and give it to us freely. Next we listen to what the body wants. The emphasis is not for the hands, but for the mind-body-emotional connection. Minimal to no physical touching or rubbing is needed. (Put simply, we are not masturbating.) Listen to what the hips want to do and begin to imagine the sensations building. Feel the pressure and movement coursing up through the body and filling every part of you with pleasure. Then allow the body to move with the sensation.
This may become simple hip movements or intense gyrations. The more we feel into that sexual energy, the more we begin to spasm. Oftentimes kinks in the muscles, tendons or bones, are working themselves out as the energy builds and seeks to expand its natural channels. From there, ride the waves. It frequently comes in bursts of exhalation, where there is a lot of shaking and moving. Then the body relaxes as the next wave builds. Each time follow the sensation to a part of the body that feels like it wants it. A wrist may need more attention, an old knee injury needs some love, or a toe wants to stretch and feel more alive. The energy of our own sexuality will seek out all the places for pleasure and healing.
It is our breath that guides us in this. To sustain the energy moving through, a natural rhythm of breathing comes in. Maintain the breath to keep the energy flowing. Not only does the breath work as a sustainer for the flow, but it naturally guides it to the parts of the body that are yearning for more attention. It fills and moves every aspect of our Beings and seeks greater depth and continuance. It is from this that we can stay in a place of near- climax and pure bliss.
The goal is to feel it, and to elevate it to higher places. This is what Tantra or Kundalini speaks of. It is a transmutation of sexual energy into vital life force energy that can then be used for anything we desire. Once transmuted, that energy becomes incredible works of art, or simply us being constantly overjoyed and energized. When we think of kids, they are little balls of activity, constantly moving. This is in part because their bodies and minds have not discovered a way to externalize their sexuality yet. They naturally fuel every part of themselves with this energy and transmute it into discovery and play. As adults, we too can return to this exuberance for life, but with the added benefit of feeling really sexy along the way.
All The Love,
Ryan Orion
Fasting Notes:
Woohoo! Today is day one. I keep on reminding myself to be present, but it is hard not to acknowledge just how far I have come on this journey. The hardest days are behind me as I feel the ease of the final two weeks. I will maintain my sense of oneness and open for new challenges, but the reality that we are beyond half way is starting to settle in.
I have stopped taking salt as a supplement, except as a soak for my toothbrush. I do not brush my teeth with salt, but use it to store it. My teeth clean themselves and I do not really need a toothbrush except for removing old gum tissue. AS I have purged, I have excess gum skin in my mouth some mornings that I clean away.
Mentally and emotionally there have been some radical changes. The more intense highs and lows are rarer. I was given the completed and signed form of my divorce and that has been an opportunity for reflection and release. No matter the quality in any relationship, to let one go is painful. I am truly thankful for the lessons I learned about myself and the wonderful children I have. I am grateful. Perhaps I will write one of these daily articles about the process a little bit more.
I am excited to share with you all my live event May 21 at 6PM! You can come in person to Earth and Soul in Sand Springs or join over Zoom.I will be speaking about this journey and sharing some wisdom about my experience and answering questions. You can get a seat down below, and it is donation based, so feel free to share in your wealth or time. It is up to you.
Ryan Orion 
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